When considering which career would suit us best, we are often told to think about our life purpose or vision, our values, motivators, or skill sets. But one important factor that is often overlooked is lifestyle.
An ideal job is not only aligned with our vision, values, motivators and skill sets, it also supports our personal life and interests. When we don't take our lifestyle into consideration when evaluating a job opportunity, we could end up taking a job that would make it difficult or prevent us from doing some of the things we enjoy most. When this happens we can become resentful of our work and then that ideal job is not so ideal anymore.
Here is a very simple example. Suppose that one of the things that you enjoy most is meeting friends or family on Thursday nights for dinner. A great job comes up with a nice increase in pay for which you consider applying. The one problem is that you would have to work late three nights a week. This would prevent you from going to your favorite weekly gathering. Looking back over the last year, some of your best moments have been trying new restaurants or sharing stories around the dinner table with these people. Giving that up would be hard. But the new job title and salary increase are very attractive and you decide to apply for the position.
After a series of interviews you are offered the job. What do you do?
Some people might jump at the chance and sign on the dotted line without hesitation. They might welcome the opportunity to spend more time developing themselves professionally and decide they'll see people on weekends. Others might indicate that they are happy to work three nights a week, but request that Thursday not be one of those nights, as they are not ready to give up that time with those they care about most. If having every Thursday night off isn't an option, then they might explore the possibility of having every other Thursday night off so they don't have to completely give up such an important tradition. And if working on Thursday nights is unavoidable others might try and start a new tradition on another evening, or on a weekend.
Whatever the choice, it is important that the job not prevent that person from meeting that need to connect with their family and friends. If it does, and the person does not take action to get that need met in some other way, then it is almost inevitable that an antagonistic relationship will result between life and work. This will affect the quality of the person's professional and personal life. And what was once considered a step forward would actually become a step off the path to a more satisfying professional life.
Keeping your desired lifestyle in mind when planning your career, be
it where you spend your time or in what country you live, will help you
build a career that enhances rather than inhibits a fulfilling personal
life.
In what ways is your work supporting your life? If your work is inhibiting your life in some way, what is one thing you can do to change that?